If you’re a returning reader, then you know this is not my first time being transparent and discussing how imposter syndrome has an impact on my life. Imposter syndrome has actively shown up and because of my doubtful mindset, I have missed out on many opportunities. What’s the saying, you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take? Well sadly, it is common to be impacted by your inner critic. The goal is to not allow it to take full reigns of your life and to be able to move forward. In this post, I am sharing five ways I reset after imposter syndrome.
I Take A Shower
And I’m not talking about any regular shower. I am talking about showers that involve things that you enjoy and make you feel better. I usually partake in my full shower routine, which includes a lot of aromatherapy, exfoliating, and moisturizing.
Showers always make me feel like I am having a moment to reset. I usually take this time to pray and to think. Sometimes I’m showering in dim light and silence and sometimes I am showering with the music as loud as it can go. But when I get out, I always feel new and like I let all my problems wash down the drain.
I Take A Break From Social Media
This one requires a lot of honesty and humility. How else will you have imposter syndrome if you’re not being influenced by the highlight reels you’re seeing other people post. When you don’t know what’s going on in other people’s lives, your opinion of your life is that it is grand. You won’t feel like you’re lacking or you haven’t accomplished as many goals as the next person.
You will be satisfied with everything you have and everything you have accomplished because you won’t constantly have something to compare it to. You’ll like your hair, you’ll like your wardrobe, you’ll be proud of everything you’ve accomplished so far. Because your life will be your blueprint, not anyone else’s.
I enjoy my time away from social media. It gives me time to think and reflect on where I came from and where I want to be, without feeling shameful about where I am not. It also frees up my time so I can do more of the things I enjoy, instead of mindlessly scrolling on my phone with every free minute I have. Don’t judge, you’ve been there too lol.
Do More of What I Love
When imposter syndrome hits, this is when I intentionally do the things I love. Imposter syndrome makes me question who I am and my worth and I basically spend time battling against myself. Doing more of what I love allows me to give myself some much-needed attention.
When I get down, I think about the things that are simple and make me the happiest. For instance, with this last bout of imposter syndrome, I realized I hadn’t been to Barnes and Noble in a very long time. Bookstore visits, even visiting the library, always make me feel more like myself and are refreshing. I purchased two books and began reading and I immediately began to feel a little better and more like me.
Surround Yourself With People Who Believe In You
Words of affirmation is probably everyone’s love language deep down. We all want to hear someone say that they’re proud of us, that they believe in us, or that they’ve seen how much we’ve grown. I am thankful for my circle and that they support me in moments when I find it hard to support myself. It’s still very important to be able to show up for yourself, but having cheerleaders to support you along the way is even better. Sometimes it helps to get out of your sunken place and make a date with your friends or your lover to talk about how you’re feeling while also enjoying their company and some fun activities.
In this adulting world, it’s easy to lose yourself trying to fit in many different boxes and wear many hats. We have to constantly remind ourselves that being genuine and true to ourselves is much more important than being accepted by others. When your true self shines through, there is no place for self-doubt. When you begin to stop telling yourself no before anyone else has the chance to, is when you will succeed. Confidence and nurturing your inner self just may be the key to success and happiness.
These are just a few ways I reset after experiencing imposter syndrome. I highly recommend spending a lot of time with yourself when you have these moments. Journaling, meditating, or getting active are all other ways to help find balance after being a little rocked by doubt. Do whatever it is you need to do to get up and feel worthy, but just don’t stay down. It’s nothing there for you.
How do you reset after experiencing moments of self-doubt and imposter syndrome?